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Shift Happens


“Shift Happens” has been posted on the wall of my office for many years. As a change management consultant, I placed it there as a reminder that the work I do within organizations and with executives occurs, oftentimes, at a snail’s pace. Frequently, I have to recall that this is NOT about crossing things off my “To Do” list, as so many corporate planners would have me believe…


Never in a million years would I have believed that I would play a role in “Shift Happening” within the healthcare system. But then, paradigm pioneers, as the business guru, Joel Barker, would call us, rarely set out to “change the world.” We simply “see” things happening and try to understand what, if anything, we can do to address them.


That is exactly what I set out to do when my husband, Bill, got sick. He went from “vertical” to “horizontal” in less than 12 hours, spending 6-1/2 months in four different hospitals, 5 of which were on full life support. My story in NOT about what happened to him but rather, about the “Shift that Happened” to me while caring for him inside today’s healthcare system.


Early in his disease, I decided to stay at the hospital, 24/7. He was so catastrophically ill that we faced daily, sometimes hourly, crises as every organ in his body failed, some more than once. In order to understand what was happening, I watched everything, asked lots of questions, did research and took lots of notes. All of these actions helped, but none more so than my 24/7 presence. I began to understand the different types of things that occurred during

I observed and noted when family members of other patients were present and when they went home. I also watched the patients of those family members die in their absence on more than one occasion. The patient families around Bill and I were present during “typical business hours,” early weeknights and for short amounts of time during the day on weekends. My experience bore out the following:


And, in the case of the residents, they were “learning” on my husband;

During nights, weekends and holidays, I observed and/or involved myself actively in the following events.

Do you think there is any corollary to these observations and experiences and the absolute fact that hospitals recommend that we, the family members of their patients, go home, get some sleep and care for ourselves during nights, weekends and holidays? I DO and so should you!


What can we do to change the healthcare system today? As family members and advocates, we represent a huge force with whom the healthcare system must eventually reckon. However, will that happen soon enough for you and your loved ones? The choice I made was a simple one – care for my husband. When the surgeon to whom we attribute his survival visited Bill, Bill thanked this skilled physician for saving his life. What was this doctor’s response? “I didn’t save your life. Your wife did.”


How did I react to this information? My 24/7 commitment grew stronger every day until I finally brought Bill home. Yes, he survived against staggering odds. Yes, without the skilled and dedicated healthcare workers’ expertise and caring, Bill would never have made it. But, if I had to choose what caused Bill to survive at an emotional level, I would have to pick the 24/7 presence of his family. And that presence during nights, weekends, holidays and shift changes can and did cause the healthcare system to “function” differently. Why? Because I required that they treat me as part of the healthcare team.


Changing healthcare as a whole is simply too overwhelming for most of us to even consider. However, if, one-by-one, we make our presence known and do not capitulate to the apparently well meaning requests to “go home,” we are a formidable force on behalf of our loved ones and cannot be ignored. Clarissa Pinkola Estes says it best.


“In any dark time, there is a tendency to veer toward fainting over how much is wrong or unmended in the world. Do not focus on that. There is a tendency too to fall into being weakened by persevering on what is outside your reach, by what cannot yet be. Do not focus there. That is spending the wind without raising the sails. We are needed, that is all we can know. And though we meet resistance, we more so will meet great souls who will hail us, love us and guide us, and we will know them when they appear. Didn’t you say you were a believer? Didn’t you say you pledged to listen to a voice greater? Didn’t you ask for grace? Don’t you remember that to be in grace means to submit to the voice greater?”
(http://www.ahpweb.org/articles/donotloseheart.html)


As a change management consultant, I know “I am responsible for the input. I am not responsible for the outcome.” As a family member, I know I only want what is best for my family. I ensure my input is included and that my hospitalized family member receives the best possible treatment with the 24/7 presence of someone who cares, even in the face of resistance by the healthcare community. Nights, weekends, holidays and shift changes are risky times for hospital patients. Doesn’t it make sense that we stand guard against that risk?


Our journey and the journey of healthcare in the United States runs parallel and we are the agents of change, but not unless we step into our power. That is always how Shift Happens!


JARI HOLLAND BUCK is a business consultant, medical layperson, Reiki Master and Shamanic Practitioner who spent 6-1/2 months in four hospitals with her critically ill husband. During 5+ months on life support, every organ in his body failed, yet he survived. Learn more about how to be an advocate in her book, Hospital Stay Handbook: A Guide to Becoming A Patient Advocate for Your Loved Ones, winner of the 2006 Parent to Parent Adding Wisdom Award and finalist in the Fresh Voices of 2006 Health category.
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