Unhappy couples always tell me that they fight over money, the kids, or sex. They tell me that they cannot communicate and the solution is that their partner has to change. After 25 years of doing couple therapy and couple research studies, I know...
I am sitting in a restaurant shamelessly eavesdropping on a conversation at the next table. "People who expect all this woo woo stuff -- love and closeness in marriage -- are out of their minds," declares an elegantly dressed woman to her friend...
Sex often draws us into a relationship and then helps keep it alive. But what is "good" sex? If you look at the images that bombard us every day from magazines and movies, good sex is instantaneous, totally mutual, cataclysmic, and is best at the...
So love is illogical, random and mysterious, yes? Not any more. We have cracked the code. In the last few years social scientists and therapists who practice emotionally focused therapy (or EFT) have made a breakthrough. Now, at the beginning of the...