When we are in conflict with our partner, it feels terrible. Conflicts in relationship are unavoidable, and the way we deal with them is crucial. Intuition is the voice of the Soul. Much of the work of navigating relationships depends on our...
There is a traditional Buddhist Practice called Tonglen. You may know it by its English name – “Giving and Taking” or, “Sending and Receiving.” Its aim is the cultivation of selfless love and compassion. It can be done as a formal daily practice or...
We are seamlessly interconnected to all beings. The practice of “equalizing” is an ancient approach to help us to abandon learned preferences and view all individuals as equally deserving of love and compassion.
Do you ever find yourself envious of another’s good fortune? Are you jealous of your partner’s ex-lover? A colleague who’s getting more recognition than you? Do you often feel you don’t measure up or get your due? Though you may want to be happy for...
Unhappy couples always tell me that they fight over money, the kids, or sex. They tell me that they cannot communicate and the solution is that their partner has to change. After 25 years of doing couple therapy and couple research studies, I know...
I am sitting in a restaurant shamelessly eavesdropping on a conversation at the next table. "People who expect all this woo woo stuff -- love and closeness in marriage -- are out of their minds," declares an elegantly dressed woman to her friend...
Here's the thing about loving people: They are annoying. I tell people this regularly and they laugh, sometimes a nervous laugh, but more often a knowing laugh. We laugh together out of relief too, it's not just you, or me, but lets face it...
Here’s a new years resolution that anyone can keep. Give the people you love, starting with yourself, the benefit of the doubt. Generally speaking and almost without exception most of us are doing the best that we can at any given moment. We are...
The fire has always been a strong metaphor for the depth, passion and intensity of physical intimacy. It is nature’s energetic equivalent to our sexuality. Fire is the energy of life, providing light, heat and the ability to transform the physical...
Making time for love is an important barometer of the commitment and sustainability of your relationship. When you consider the outrageous scheduling hoops we agree to without qualm in our work setting or even more intense in managing our children’s...