Unhappy couples always tell me that they fight over money, the kids, or sex. They tell me that they cannot communicate and the solution is that their partner has to change. After 25 years of doing couple therapy and couple research studies, I know...
I am sitting in a restaurant shamelessly eavesdropping on a conversation at the next table. "People who expect all this woo woo stuff -- love and closeness in marriage -- are out of their minds," declares an elegantly dressed woman to her friend...
Here's the thing about loving people: They are annoying. I tell people this regularly and they laugh, sometimes a nervous laugh, but more often a knowing laugh. We laugh together out of relief too, it's not just you, or me, but lets face it...
Here’s a new years resolution that anyone can keep. Give the people you love, starting with yourself, the benefit of the doubt. Generally speaking and almost without exception most of us are doing the best that we can at any given moment. We are...
The fire has always been a strong metaphor for the depth, passion and intensity of physical intimacy. It is nature’s energetic equivalent to our sexuality. Fire is the energy of life, providing light, heat and the ability to transform the physical...
Making time for love is an important barometer of the commitment and sustainability of your relationship. When you consider the outrageous scheduling hoops we agree to without qualm in our work setting or even more intense in managing our children’s...
The earth’s atmosphere is stabilized by a very thin ozone layer which keeps temperatures on the planet in check. If you haven’t already seen Al Gore’s An Inconvenient Truth, I urge you to do so. It crystallizes the fact that the fragility of our...
Sustainability is the catch phrase of this generation, it means learning how to use current resources in a way that does not harm the future. We hear about this in terms of building homes, cultivating food, and rethinking our natural and energy...
I am no longer a psychiatrist. I renounce it because I believe cruelty is at the core of the profession.
In my early days in the field,
Dr. Sue Johnson
Wendy Strgar
What Doctors Don't Tell You