Dr. Sue JohnsonI am sitting in a restaurant shamelessly eavesdropping on a conversation at the next table. "People who expect all this woo woo stuff -- love and closeness in marriage -- are out of their minds," declares an elegantly dressed woman to her friend...
Sex often draws us into a relationship and then helps keep it alive. But what is "good" sex? If you look at the images that bombard us every day from magazines and movies, good sex is instantaneous, totally mutual, cataclysmic, and is best at the...
So love is illogical, random and mysterious, yes? Not any more. We have cracked the code. In the last few years social scientists and therapists who practice emotionally focused therapy (or EFT) have made a breakthrough. Now, at the beginning of the...
Harville Hendrix PhDIf you are still waiting and wishing that your partner will just see the light and behave the way you think he or she should, then you are living a fantasy. Most of us live with a figment of our imagination rather than the real flesh and blood...
Bernie Siegel MDWho is the most important person in your life? Reflect on that question for a moment. The answer is you. No one can replace you. You need to be for yourself what we all need: a best friend, someone who can put up with your craziness and inadequacies...
Here’s a new years resolution that anyone can keep. Give the people you love, starting with yourself, the benefit of the doubt. Generally speaking and almost without exception most of us are doing the best that we can at any given moment. We are...
The fire has always been a strong metaphor for the depth, passion and intensity of physical intimacy. It is nature’s energetic equivalent to our sexuality. Fire is the energy of life, providing light, heat and the ability to transform the physical...
The earth’s atmosphere is stabilized by a very thin ozone layer which keeps temperatures on the planet in check. If you haven’t already seen Al Gore’s An Inconvenient Truth, I urge you to do so. It crystallizes the fact that the fragility of our...
What Doctors Don't Tell YouGiven perfect conditions, human beings are thought to be capable of living a healthy 125 years. Indeed, the oldest recorded human being was a French woman who lived to be 122 years of age (JAMA, 1 ...
Eckhart TolleUnless and until you access the consciousness frequency of presence, all relationships, and particularly intimate relationships, are deeply flawed and ultimately dysfunctional. They may seem perfect for a while, such as when you are “in love,” but...
