As children grow, their flower remedy needs vary. The following will help to outline some examples of how flower remedies can be used for emotionally related situations. This is by no means a definitive listing. One should consult the flower remedy literature, and the flower remedy self-help questionnaire for additional information on use. Flower remedies may be chosen for children of all ages by carefully evaluating each remedy description and applying each to the circumstances at hand. Flower remedy names appear below in italics.
Walnut may be used to help the child through this time of transition. Impatiens when the child is obviously becoming irritable and fussy over delays in your response to their needs, as well as the desire to move past this stage of their development. The stress-relieving formula can be used by rubbing it directly onto the gums. When using, one or two drops can be diluted in a teaspoon of water, this may then be rubbed on the gums directly, or dripped onto a frozen stalk of celery or carrot and given to the
baby to chew on.
Cherry Plum, for the loss of temper. Impatiens, for the child’s obvious impatience with delays in having their needs met. Vine, when the child’s tantrums seem more like an exercise of power used to get their own way.
Holly, for the jealous, vengeful child. These emotions may also accompany temper tantrums, and mean or aggressive behavior toward other siblings; Beech, when there is a tendency for the child to be hypercritical or judgmental of other siblings’ behavior. Willow, when the child feels that he/she is getting less attention than deserved, or is not as favored as his siblings. This can often lead to resentment and bitterness.
Mimulus, when the child shows fear of a known things, for example, fear of the dark, fear of animals, being alone, storms etc.; Aspen, for unknown fear, something which frightens the child and which he or she cannot identify. Rock Rose, for nightmares or when a child becomes terrified or hysterical.
Timid, Shy, ‘Clinging’ Children
Mimulus, when the child is fearful of a known thing and clings for protection; Larch when the child displays a lack of self-confidence, and does not venture forward; Centaury, when the child is easily bossed around and exploited by other children, especially when there is a need to serve and be accepted; Chicory, when the child is over-possessive of mother, pets, or toys; tending to ‘cling’ to their possessions.
The Drowsy, Apathetic Child
Clematis, when there is a tendency to daydream and space out; Hornbeam, when the child seems to `drag around,’ fatigued and tired; Wild Rose, when the child seems indifferent and apathetic toward circumstances and things.
The Bullying Child
Holly, when the child displays jealousy, hatred and meanness, indicating a need to develop more love and caring for others; Beech, when the child is over-critical and judgmental toward others; Vine, when taken to the extreme, this child is bossy and dominating, demanding others to adhere to his/her wishes; Vervain, when taken to the extreme, this child can become oppressive to others by always needing to be right. They can be self-righteous, argumentative, and over-bearing with their opinions and personal beliefs.
The Bullied Child
Centaury, when the child is easily influenced and dominated by stronger personalities, constantly doing things to serve others, often at the expense of their own wants and needs; Larch, lacking self-confidence the child may be unsure of himself, seeking approval from those he looks up to. This may eventually lead to some form of their being bullied or exploited; Agrimony, distressed by arguments and quarreling, this child will defer to the wishes of others to avoid confrontations, and though they may be troubled and tormented they hide behind a facade of cheerfulness and it is usually difficult to have them admit anything is wrong; Mimulus, fearful of most things, this child is easily open to harassment from stronger and less sensitive children and adults.
Gentian, even when small annoyances or hindrances block their path, this child can become discouraged and self-doubtful. Water Violet, for children who seem aloof and need to be alone; Pine, for those children who are unnecessarily hard on themselves, guilty at not having done better in their school work or in relation to other circumstances. USE: Most flower remedy brands use some alcohol to preserve the preparation, usually 27% by volume. Subsequently, when giving remedies to children from the liquid concentrates, it is best to dilute them. If needed, up to six remedies may be combined together, two to three drops each of the concentrate may be added to the child’s favorite drink or put in a teaspoon of water and mixed into his or her food. Remedies may continue to be given until conditions are resolved. Or, by placing two to three drops of each remedy in a one ounce dropper bottle filled with spring water. Four drops from this dropper bottle is taken four times each day under the tongue. Once on rising, before bed, and in between meals during the day. For sanitary reasons keep the dropper pipette from touching the child’s mouth or any other surface. Store in the least cold compartment of the refrigerator.
NOTE: The proceeding information has just touched on some of the many uses of Flower Remedies with children. Other remedies can be chosen by carefully reading and familiarizing yourself with the descriptions of all 38 of the remedies, and the stress-relieving formula, and applying them in the appropriate circumstances. In all conditions requiring medical attention a physician or appropriate health care professional should be notified.