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Tat Tvam Asi (that t’vahm Ah-see) I See the Other in Myself and Myself in Others

I am that involves looking at everything in the world, everyone else in the world, and realizing that you are looking at another version of yourself. You and I are the same. Everything is the same. I am that, you are that, all this is that. We are all mirrors for others, and if we are able to be present, we can see ourselves in the reflection of other people.

This is called the mirror of relationship. Through the mirror of relationship I discover my nonlocal self. For this reason nurturing relationships is the most important activity in my life. When I look around me, everything I see is an expression of myself. Relationship, then, is a tool for spiritual evolution, with the ultimate goal of reaching unity consciousness. We are all inevitably part of the same universal consciousness, but the real break-through happens when we start to recognize that connection in our daily lives.

Through the mirror of relationship—all relationships—we discover extended states of awareness. Those whom we love and those whom we are repelled by are both mirrors of ourselves.

Whom are we attracted to? People who have the same traits as we have, but more so. We want to be in their company because subconsciously we feel that by doing so we, too, might manifest more of the traits as well. By the same token we are repelled by people who reflect back to us traits we deny in our own selves. So if you are having a strong negative reaction to someone, you can be sure that they possess some traits in common with you, traits that you are not willing to embrace. If you were willing to accept these qualities, then they wouldn’t upset you.

By recognizing that we can see ourselves in others, every relationship becomes a tool for the evolution of our consciousness . . .The next time you are attracted to someone, ask yourself what attracted you. Is it beauty, or grace or elegance? Whatever it is, know that that quality is also blossoming in you. Pay attention to these feelings, and you can begin the process of becoming more fully yourself.

Of course, the same is true of people who repel you. In becoming more fully your true self, you have to understand and embrace the less attractive qualities of yourself. The essential nature of the universe is the coexistence of opposite values. When we are willing to embrace both the light and the dark sides of our selves, we can begin to heal both our selves and our relationships, and then take our souls to even higher states of love and fulfillment.


Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire by Dr. Deepak Chopra. Acknowledged as one of the world’s greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Through his creation of The Chopra Center for Well Being in California in 1995, Chopra established a formal vehicle for the expansion of his healing approach using the integration of the best of western medicine with natural healing traditions. Dr. Chopra serves as the Director of Education at The Chopra Center, which offers training programs in mind body medicine (Journey into Healing). The University of California, San Diego School of Medicine has granted continuing medical education credits for this program, which satisfies requirements for the American Medical Association Physician’s Recognition Award. Through his partnership with David Simon, M.D. and numerous health care professionals in both conventional and complementary healing arts, Chopra’s work is changing the way the world-views physical, mental, emotional, spiritual and social wellness.

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Written by Deepak Chopra MD

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