Is laughter more than just a joking matter?
It depends upon how it’s used I suppose. Just as a hammer can be utilized to carefully build a house, it can also destroy a plate glass window.
In a similar manner, laughter in the context of ridicule can evoke pain, suffering and embarrassment. Yet as a coping tool, humor can evolve into a very powerful strategy for success.
During many interviews concerning the health benefits of humor, I’ve
been asked one question repeatedly. “If laughter, indeed, can move us
in the direction of health and well-being, isn’t it possible that
certain types of humor can produce precisely the opposite results?”
The answer undoubtedly is, “yes!”
Put down, ethnic and sexual humor hurt people. Jokes that might seem funny to one person yet denigrating to another must be avoided. While humor can promote pain, it can also bring joy, happiness and a needed sense of empowerment. When used appropriately, it paves the way past the odds to a positive outcome.
You’re probably asking yourself how humor can lead to success. The answer lies in one of the greatest, time-tested applications of humor known for thousands of years and practiced in just about every culture. It is the use of humor as a coping mechanism.
This psychological term is defined by Webster as “an adaptation to
environmental stress that is based on conscious or unconscious choice
and that enhances control over behavior or gives psychological
comfort.” While this seems like a lot of jargon, consider these key
words: adaptation, stress, choice and control.
Let’s proceed to deal with each word separately.
In the context of “adaptation,” the only things in life that are
certain are death, taxes and change. The latter seems to cause the
most stress for us. Anything that veers us away from a set routine
causes some degree of distress. It’s not surprising that people who
adapt are also the ones who succeed. In the face of change, one can
panic, become depressed and give in. Yet there’s also the choice to
laugh, take a deep breath, dig in and discover the best means to deal
with new and challenging circumstances. Laughter in the midst of
change can be a very effective “time-out.&qyot It signifies our resolve
to view the issue or challenge in a more rational perspective. Humor
provides the unique opening to move forward on a positive note. Such
an approach can be very effective if one avoids the pitfall of using
humor for denial.
The second key word in the definition is “stress.” While
this term needs no explanation, it’s important to point out that
laughter has been scientifically shown to reverse the typical negative
biological effects associated with stress. As a “stress-buster,”
humor can help us restore an often needed sense of internal balance.
And speaking of “balance,” life is full of choices that serve to
constantly tweak the quality and balance of our lives on many levels.
The key word here is “choice.” In the face of adversity, you can
pack your bags and walk away sulking that life has just thrown you a
curve. Yet if you choose to meet the challenge head on, laughter can
pave the way past obstacles while progressively building a refreshing
perspective for persevering against the odds. The bottom line is that
we all have the choice to laugh, regardless of our circumstances.
Choosing humor in the face of adversity establishes a needed sense of
“control” that facilitates healing. When we’re powerless and out of
control, our health predictably declines. Establishing any semblance
of control during difficult times fuels personal empowerment. To
quote Mark Twain, “The human race has one really effective weapon, and
that is laughter.”
This column is dedicated to my many mentors( people who face cancer,
heart and lung disease, diabetes and a vast array of phenomenally
challenging illnesses on a daily basis. They awaken every morning,
look adversity right in the eye and choose to laugh in the face of the
greatest challenges of their lives. They’ve chosen to live everyday
with purpose, joy and gusto. As C. W. Metcalf once said, “Misery
comes free. Joy, fun and laughter take planning.” — Mind Over Matter!
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